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9 Regal Ways to Think like a Queen ...

By Lezlie

What comes to mind when you consider ways to think like a queen? One time I was rehearsing a scene for a short film at USC. The professor stopped me as I was screaming at my ex-boyfriend and told me to say the exact same lines in a calm and collected manner. I did and it was even more powerful and effective than when I screamed. He told me that queens don't have to yell to get what they want in life. I'll never forget that and I added it to my list of ways to think like a queen.

1 Refuse Failure

Refuse Failure One of my favorite ways to think like a queen is to refuse failure. Oprah has a great quote on this, "Think like a queen. A queen is not afraid to fail. Failure is another stepping stone to greatness." It's true, ladies, you can't be afraid to fail because it's the only way to attaining what you truly want in life. This is all a process anyway, life.

2 Humility

Humility A princess acts like a spoiled brat but a queen understands the power in humility. You can't pretend to be humble and it's an attribute that is so refreshing when it's genuine. Humility is defined as having a modest opinion of one's importance or rank. Wouldn't you expect royalty to think they were better than the rest of the world? Well, they aren't. Although a queen may have greater authority, the value of her life is the same as a newborn baby born in any slum. Life is life, and a queen understands and respects that.

3 Smile

Smile Of all of the royal families, I have studied the English family the most. They always smile, have you noticed? A smile is a universal positive sign to others. Whatever you do for a living, if you smile it will make you more approachable and likable in your environment. If people like you, you will get more accomplished for yourself and for others. Don't forget to smile.

4 Grooming

Grooming Can you imagine seeing Kate Middleton in an oversized dirty shirt? I can't imagine any of you wearing that either, I admit that's the worst case scenario. But you get the point, ladies. While your appearance isn't the only thing in life, it's definitely important. I recently listened to Gala Darling's book, "Love and Sequins," and she speaks about the importance in being intentional in what you wear and how you look daily. First impressions matter, so at least put some effort in when you roll out of bed.

5 Renew Your Mind

Renew Your Mind If you hang around people with a pauper mentality, this is how you will think about yourself as well. I used to think that people who said daily affirmations were on some super hippy trip but I tried it and it really does help to change my mind set. Start to declare things about yourself even if you don't believe them yet and you will begin to notice a shift in your thinking. I am a firm believer that our thoughts dictate our actions and our actions dictate our situations. If you change your thoughts, you change your life.

6 Grace

Grace Grace Kelly comes to mind. One of my favorite definitions of grace is the disposition to or an act or instance of kindness. I think that graciousness is attainable even if you are born a little clumsy or mean. Think about a lady who is gracious and study her, then put it into practice for yourself. There is a regal air that comes with grace.

7 Be Well Rounded

Be Well Rounded While you may not be in the position to be a lady of leisure, you can certainly find some time to develop your hobbies and natural talent. When you are a queen you know a little about a lot of things because you have to be around a vast array of people. Take some time to read the morning headlines from a few news publications. Stay up to date on the New York Times Best Seller's list as well as the Weekly Top 40. Even better, take some time to dig back into time and discover older music and books as well.

8 Mercy

Mercy To be merciful means you have the upper hand and could totally change someone's life but you decide to have compassion or forgiveness towards them. It's a true sign of strength and incredibly regal. The best leaders know how to be merciful and don't brag about it when they display it. It goes hand in hand with being humble.

9 Be Decisive

Be Decisive Do you know what you want in life? A queen isn't afraid to call the shots when she has to. This ties with not being afraid to fail. Even if you don't make the best decision, at least you made one in confidence. You can take ownership and have accountability, and people respect that.

Why be a princess when you can be a queen? Most of us aren't born with a silver spoon in our mouth, but being a queen isn't about that. It really is a way of thinking and being that is available to all of us. What are some of your favorite ways to think like a queen?

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