7 Reasons to Stop Apologizing All the Time ...


An apology is an expression of remorse or regret for hurting someone or doing something wrong; however, as important as it is to apologize when you are in the wrong, there are several good reasons to stop apologizing all the time. Believe it or not, you can apologize too much. I should know because I apologize all the time, even when I donโ€™t necessarily need to. I have slowly begun to learn that my constant need to apologize isnโ€™t helping me or those around me. Many people, especially women have a tendency to apologize too much. According to Beverly Engel, author of The Power of Apology, this can come from several factors including being taught to take responsibility for issues or problems, being taught that an apology is a form of politeness, having a fear of conflict, or being a victim of abuse. Personally, I have a fear of conflict and was taught to take responsibility for issues and problems. Now that you know you can apologize too much, you should also be aware of the specific reasons to stop apologizing all the time.

1. Itโ€™s Not Always Your Fault

Have you ever found yourself apologizing for the fact that it is snowing or for the fact that your best friend showed up late to dinner? Neither one of these things would have been your fault. Yet, if you say you're sorry frequently like I do, you might catch yourself apologizing for something you had no control over. In an effort to put an end to my apology compulsion, I am going to stop apologizing for things that arenโ€™t my fault. For example, instead of telling someone I am sorry they had a bad day, I am going to tell them I wish their day had been better. In addition to the fact that you shouldnโ€™t apologize for things that are outside of your control, there are some other very good reasons to stop apologizing all the time.

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