What Nobody Warns You About with Seeking Life Advice

1. Doctor

When it is a medical matter, your doctor is almost certainly the best person to consult (pharmacists are also an excellent source of help with minor problems). They can advise and often allay your concerns. While you might be tempted to search the web first, there are many reasons to beware of online medical advice that isn't tailored to you. For reliable research, stick to trusted institutions like the Mayo Clinic, but always consult a professional for a proper diagnosis. Don’t forget that your doctor is also there to help with emotional problems, not just physical issues.

2. Experience

With both emotional and medical issues, someone who has been through the same experience can often prove to be a great source of advice on how to cope. Consulting a licensed doctor is vital, of course, but they look at the physical side, whereas someone who has direct experience can add another perspective. This peer support can be extremely helpful in coping with illnesses and navigating the emotional aspects of recovery.

3. Spiritual Advisor

If you have a faith, then your priest or other spiritual advisor is there to help and advise when you have concerns or problems. Even if you are not a member of any faith, churches and other religious groups can be a great source of advice and help. For example, community organizations like the Salvation Army provide valuable support and resources to people in need. Sometimes, it may even help just to share your troubles and talk with someone who is willing to listen without judgment.

4. Mother

Mothers, bless them, do think they know everything. There may be some issues you would never want to discuss with yours (I know I’d never ask mine for advice on my love life!) but they can help out with maternal wisdom on many subjects, from child-rearing to practical problems around the house.

5. Neighbours

If you need advice on finding a good local tradesman, where the best shops are in a new neighbourhood, or you’re thinking of moving and want to know what the area is like, ask the neighbours. Most people are delighted to be asked for their opinion, and will be only too happy to share them with you.

6. Professional

There are times when the best people to consult for advice are the professionals. Doing so can save you a great deal of time and stress. Any decision that involves financial issues, whether it’s investments or building work, should never be taken without talking to reliable professionals registered with reputable organizations like FINRA, or it could cost you dearly in the long term.

Some common areas where professional advice is essential include:

7. Someone Not Involved

What if you have an emotional problem? Often it can be much better to talk to someone who is not involved in any way, as they can look at the issue with a clearer head and with a lack of bias. For example, if you have a relationship problem and are looking for ways to keep your relationship from going stale, your friends may automatically side with you because they care about you. On the other hand, an objective third party who doesn’t know your partner may point out that you have no reason to be concerned and offer a fresh perspective.

Ultimately, we are responsible for making our own decisions, but it is always valuable to obtain as many opinions as possible. This way, you are best equipped to decide on the best course of action. So, who would you ask for advice, and have you ever wished you’d never listened to someone’s advice, however well-meant?