It's always better to have a best friend than a partner. Well, ideally, you want to have a best friend and a boyfriend or girlfriend, but when romantic relationships fail, your best friend will always be there. I confess, I'm one of those self-satisfied, smug butt holes who really did marry her best friend, so I'm the luckiest girl alive, and I'm sure that that's true for lots of people. However, you still need a best friend outside of your partner. Why? Well ...
1. Who else Can You Vent to when You're Mad at Your Partner?
You always need to have someone to listen when you need to vent, especially when you're venting about your partner because even if you love your girlfriend/boyfriend/spouse, you know they get on your last damn nerve sometimes.
2. Your Best Friend Will Never Try to Make You Jealous with Other Besties
But if your partner does try this sorry ish, your bestie will be behind your revenge plan.
3. You Can Talk to Your BFF about Your Fantasies
Sometimes it's awkward to talk to your boyfriend or girlfriend about your fantasies, whether you're talking about your sexual fantasies or your dreams and goals.
4. And Your Crushes
Also awkward – you don't want to make your partner jealous or anything, but come on, you need to talk about the hottie barista at Starbucks.
5. And Also Your Fandom Obsessions
There are some things your partner just can't understand, such as your obsession with Dr. Who.
6. The Two of You Can Share Clothes and Makeup
That seems superficial, but it's really not – it's really kind of awesome, honestly.
7. Your Best Friend Will Always Come Back to You
And she won't play come here, go away games with you, which is always a plus.
8. You Can Eat Crap Food in Front of Your Best Friend
She'll eat it with you and she won't judge you if you go back for seconds.
9. And Unabashedly Undo Your Jeans Right after
You don't have to feel bad about burping or farting, either, because your bestie won't think you're gross.
10. Your BFF Knows Your Deepest, Darkest, Dirtiest Secrets
You know, the ones that you're just not prepared to tell your partner until you've been together for like fifty years.
11. And the True Versions of All the Great Stories You Slightly Embellished
Whatever, it's just to make them sound better, it's not like you go around pretending to be a Duchess or anything.
12. Your Bestie Understands All Your Mood Swings
She doesn't judge you for them and, more importantly, she doesn't take them personally, even when you're all full of vitriol and angst.
13. Not to Mention Your Weird Personality Quirks
You don't even have to try to explain them.
14. And Your Irrational Fears
No one else understands your unwavering fear of the cotton in pill bottles, but your bestie does.
15. Your BFF Remembers Every Birthday, Anniversary, and Special Occasions
You don't even have to leave broad hints, your bestie just knows.
16. Your Bestie Never Judges Your Guilty Pleasures
Not the crap movies you watch, the cheesy music you listen to, or the awful books you read – your best friend judges nothing.
17. And She'll Be There Long after Your Boyfriend/girlfriend Isn't
Because that's what friends are for.
Do you have a best friend who's worth ten boyfriends or girlfriends? Let her/him know!
Frequently Asked Questions
- Why is having a best friend more important than having a boyfriend?
- Best friends offer unconditional support and lifelong companionship that often lasts longer than romantic relationships.
- Can a best friend provide emotional support better than a boyfriend?
- Yes, best friends usually understand you deeply and are there unconditionally, without the complexities of romance.
- How does a best friend influence your mental health?
- A strong friendship can reduce stress and boost happiness by providing a reliable support system.
- Is it normal to prioritize friendships over romantic relationships?
- Absolutely, prioritizing friendships helps build a stable foundation for your emotional well-being.
- Can a boyfriend become your best friend?
- Yes, if your boyfriend also supports you emotionally and shares your interests, he can be both a partner and a best friend.
- What if I feel lonely without a boyfriend, can a best friend help?
- A best friend can fill loneliness with meaningful connection and shared experiences, often better than fleeting romantic attention.
- How do I strengthen my bond with my best friend?
- Spend quality time together, communicate openly, and support each other through life's ups and downs.
- Are best friends important during breakups?
- Definitely, best friends provide comfort and perspective when romantic relationships end.
- Can having a best friend improve my confidence?
- Yes, having someone who believes in you boosts your self-esteem and encourages personal growth.
- What if I don't have a best friend right now?
- It's never too late to build strong friendships by being open, kind, and seeking connections in your community.