We all need ways to manage anger because we’ve all been there. What started off as a normal day has just been ruined by something someone said, or perhaps it was the early morning meeting that was dumped on you last minute, or simply a bad case of the world needing to back off. Whatever the case may be, anger is nobody’s friend, but it doesn’t have to mean that the rest of your day is ruined. Next time you’re faced with a blood-boiling situation, remember these easy tips for anger management.
1 Do Communicate
While Momma may have told you more than once, “if you don’t have anything nice to say, don’t say anything at all”, it is important to talk things through. Remember to express how you feel clearly and concisely. This is one of the most effective ways to manage anger.
2 DON’T Play the Blame Game
Own your feelings. It’s perfectly ok to feel angry, but don’t blame others for how you’re feeling.
3 Do Know Your Signs
Recognize your signs of anger early on. This will help you keep it from escalating.
4 DON’T Ignore Your Feelings
Ignoring your feelings can lead to stress and resentment. Doing so will only prolong the inevitable “blow up”, and will only make things messy.
5 Do Express Your Anger in a Healthy Way
Find a healthy outlet. Go for a walk, exercise or write in a journal. Use that negative energy to do something positive for yourself.
6 DON’T Let That Negative Energy Weigh You down
Swearing or engaging in physical violence is not only unproductive, it can be dangerous as well. Just don't do it.
7 Do Give Yourself a Time out
While time outs were given as punishments when we were kids, they can do wonders for changing your outlook on a situation. Take a break and walk away. You’d be surprised how much of a difference 15 minutes can make in a stressful situation.
8 DON’T Leave the Other Person Hanging
If you need to take a breather, let them know. Chances are, they’re in need of one too.
9 Do Apologize
While it takes two to argue, it’s important to understand when you’ve crossed the line. It happens, and it’s ok to apologize.
10 DON’T Repeat Abusive Behavior
If you lost your cool, recognize where it all went wrong, and make a commitment with yourself to stop the cycle.
Unfortunately, anger is a part of life, but with these tips, managing that anger will be a snap!