7 Rules of Being a Lady That Just Dont Make Sense ...

7 Rules of Being a Lady That Just Dont Make Sense ...
By Kelly • Sep 6, 2013

Growing up, my parents always tried to teach me the proper rules of being a lady. Everything from how to act, to what to say, and even how to look. Of course when I was young, I believed all of these rules, until I grew up. Looking back, so many typical “rules of being a lady” honestly have no place in the modern woman. We are allowed to act differently than our parents did growing up. We are allowed to go against the grain more. So of all of the “rules of being a lady,” here are the must absurd ones that truly don’t make sense anymore.

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1. Ladies Never Curse

Of all of the rules of being a lady, this one is the most bullshit. Growing up, my father always told me that a lady never curses and naturally I believed him. So I spent a good majority of my life avoiding swearing. Then I grew up and realized that this was the dumbest thing ever. I am not saying that you should have the mouth of a sailor, but you shouldn’t be afraid to say the f-word when the situation calls for it.

2. Ladies Are Always Put Together

I feel like so many girls are under the impression that they need to have their hair, makeup, nails, and not to mention outfit perfect put polished at all times. They never want to be seen in sweatpants and take hours to get ready to send the right ladylike image. While looking put together can be nice sometimes, it definitely should not be required all of the time.

3. Ladies Put Their Man’s Needs First

This is not the '40s. We no longer live in a time where girls must find a husband by the time they are 20 and stay home to cook and clean all day. You can put your needs before any man and still have a wonderfully fulfilling life.

4. Ladies Must Be on Their Best Behavior

One of my favorites quotes is “well-behaved women rarely make history.” Who cares if you drink a bit too much and go a little bit too crazy? It is your life and you can do what you want. You do not have to sit there quietly and keep your opinions to yourself.

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5. Ladies Must Always Smile

You are allowed to be upset. I am not sure if some girls believe that you must always be smiling and happy to be considered a lady, but it is just not true. It is only expected that you are having a bad day once in a while. In fact, most people would consider it weird if you were always happy and smiling, and they would probably be annoyed with your peppiness after a while.

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6. Ladies Are Always Feminine

From someone who spent a good portion of their childhood playing sports and wearing jerseys, you can still be girly and like things that are “meant for boys.” So what? Who gets to dictate that boys can only enjoy something? You don’t have to constantly wear dresses and want to play with dolls to be considered a lady. You can have a wide variety of interests and no one will care.

7. Ladies Never Make a Scene

A lady would never go out of her way to make a scene when something doesn’t go her way, right? Wrong. If something deserves making a scene about, go make a scene about it. Modern day women are allowed to speak their minds. You no longer have to feel bad if you want to yell and scream about things.

We no longer live in a society where women have to be well behaved to be successful and find a husband. Women should be able to do anything they want without fear of not being considered “ladylike.” What did you think of theses absurd rules of being a lady? What other rules do you know that you think are absurd? Why do you think so many girl hold onto these rules and let them dictate their lives?

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This is inspirational to me somehow lol

Most of these "rules" make me want to throw up!

I LOVE this article! I spend my entire childhood hearing my mother say things like "A lady doesn't sit like that" (Feet up in the chair) & "Little girls don't play in the mud" or "You always want to be considered a lady" Things like that & even @ a very young age I would think "Well, I AM a little girl & I DO like sitting this way, it's more comfortable" & "I am a little girl & I enjoy very much playing rough in the mud with the boys" It made me a VERY defiant child because I strived so hard to express my individuality that it made me rebellious! I know frm experience it is NOT good to try & MOLD a child one way or the other but I will say this.., It did make me the free spirited, open minded, non-judgmental, non-conformist that I am today!!!

"We no longer live in a society where women have to be well behaved to be successful and find a husband." this is true I suppose but why are we promoting not behaving?? most of these just seem awfully selfish. my guess is you want a husband who will put ur needs first, so why not do the same for him? it's a loving, serving relationship instead of a self-serving one. works a lot better if we all have some respect for each other instead of demanding our way, making scenes.

Love this! According to these rules I am not lady like at all

'good girls are seen and not heard' is total bullshit. everyone has a voice, and if i have an opinion on something i will voice my opinion because every voice should be heard

I am so a lady

I do think we should always smile for sure :)

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