7 Ways to React to Bullying in the Workplace ...

By Lyndsie

7 Ways to React to Bullying in the Workplace ...

Bullying in the workplace is sadly prevalent. As common as it is among younger children and teens, you always hope that by the time a bully becomes an adult, he or she will outgrow the tendency toward being mean and harassing others. Unfortunately, that isn't always the case. If you're dealing with bullying in the workplace, these tips should help you cope with the situation without stooping to the bully's level.

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Know What You're Dealing with

You have to know the definition of bullying in the workplace. There's never any excuse to be mean to a coworker, and harassment has no place at the office. However, you just want to make sure you're being bullied. Sometimes it's tempting to ignore context, or to get hurt by what might simply be constructive criticism delivered in a not so gentle way. Always think about context, tone, and the person you're dealing with – but remember that you don't have to put up with any behavior that makes you uncomfortable.

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Keep Your Cool

Above all else, you have to stay calm. Bullies thrive on conflict, even in the workplace. If you react negatively or try to behave the same way, your bully's tactics will escalate. Stay calm and try to seem as indifferent as you possibly can, even if you have to vent to your support network later.

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Don't Cower

Although you shouldn't stoop to the bully's level by being mean or insulting in return, you shouldn't cower either. Some advice across the Internet encourages bullied victims to show their emotions, to cry, to demonstrate how hurt they are, but all too often bullies simply use that as extra ammunition. Bullies are glad when they hurt you, and while adults are more likely to feel ashamed of themselves at some point, you don't need to suffer more until then. Stand up straight, hold your own, and do not submit to bullying.

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Maintaining your composure sends a clear message that you're not an easy target. Practice calm assertiveness. If possible, respond with firm professionalism to undermine the bully's power. Let them know, in no uncertain terms, that their behavior is unacceptable but do so without aggression. It's a delicate balance to strike, but showing neither fear nor hostility can sometimes deflate a bully's confidence. Remember, building a reputation for poise under pressure can not only help you in defusing the current situation but can also earn you respect from colleagues who witness your strength.

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Document Everything

Whether you keep a notebook or a log on your computer, make note of every instance of bullying. Use as much detail as you can muster, include the date and time, and if anyone else saw you being bullied or experienced it themselves, write down their names too. You'll need this evidence later.

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Call It out

Although you shouldn't cower before your bully or mimic his or her behavior, feel free to call it out – preferably in front of others. When your bully puts down your work performance, your clothing choices, or anything else, say so. Tell the person, “You're being a bully. Your behavior is disrespectful and unprofessional.” That's kind of embarrassing, right? As a result, it might be enough to make your bully feel ashamed.

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Expose the Bullying

You know that log of information? Take it to your boss, or to HR. Your office has its own special protocol for reporting behavior like this, and you should take advantage of it. You'll be glad you documented all the details, and by speaking out, you can help keep someone else from suffering the same abuse.

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Keep Doing Your Best

No matter what, don't let your work bully bring you down. Keep doing your best at work, and keep being yourself. If you change, the bully wins – and besides, there's absolutely no merit to whatever nasty things he or she says. You're awesome.

Bullying is a problem for too many people. Adult bullies are even worse, so they should know better. Have you ever encountered a bully at work or at school? How did you deal with the issue?

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Learn the bullies tactic tics and use them against them. If the bully uses embarrassment use that too on them and try to be shameless whatever they want to embarassnyou with be the first to joke about it,

I have a coworker who makes sure to use any negative thing I say as ammo-mainly because I'm known for being a positive and likable, so she's constantly trying to prove I'm not to everyone. She does it backhanded so that if I were to call her out I'd look oversensitive or bitchy. Got any advice on this kind of person?

This is a very helpful article...I'm experiencing this at my office, by two people, and it's caused me so much anxiety. It helps to know there are other people experiencing it. Thank you for sharing these suggestions!

I'm getting bullied at work by a foreign worker who thinks he's always right and now yells on my face and screams names at me

Been bullied in the workplace. @abbey put an end to it now! Tell he immediately. If this bully is in power and above you she has control over your job. I had a supervisor bully me and I lost my job. Always speak up for yourself!! They are making your workplace intolerable and no one should go to work with anxiety. REPORT IT to HR!!

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