7 Ways to Help out a Neighbor Who is Lonely ...

One of the simplest ways to help out a neighbor is to invite them for meals. Adding one to your Thanksgiving or Christmas dinner isn't really difficult. Ask them well in advance if possible, so that they don't think you've invited them at the last minute out of pity. It's wise to word the invitation something like this: "Have you any plans for Christmas? We'd love you to join us if you don't." But don't just wait for special occasions - invite them at any time of year.

Many people are too proud to admit that they are lonely, for fear of seeming needy. So asking them for help is a good way of getting round that. It will help them feel useful and that they have something to offer. Neighbors can be a fantastic source of help and advice when you've just moved into a new neighborhood and need an emergency plumber.

A really simple way to help out lonely neighbors is to offer them rides. Their isolation may be caused by lack of transport - unless you live in a city with great transport links, not having a car can prevent people from getting out and about. Giving them a ride can allow them to do all sorts of things, such as go shopping, go to the library, or attend a class.

Another way to help out your lonely neighbor is to encourage them to get involved in the community. Even small places have plenty of activities going on, if you know about them. However, your neighbor may have no idea, especially if they are new. Tell them of activities that you know about and where they can find out what's going on.

If your neighbor is retired (a change of circumstances like giving up work can be a reason for loneliness), there are bound to be lots of organisations that would be only to glad of their help. Voluntary work really can't be underestimated. It helps you to meet people and feel that you are making a useful contribution.

You can also ask them for advice about life. Older neighbors have seen or done pretty much everything, so can offer lots of useful advice that will help you consider options. Even younger people can provide a different perspective or a sympathetic ear. Everybody needs to feel useful, and it's flattering when someone asks you for advice.

Do you think you know your neighbors? Chat to them and ask them about their life. You could be surprised what you find out. You might discover that your grumpy old neighbor is actually a veteran, or that another bakes a mean cake. Sharing their stories could help them to feel that someone is interested in them.

Loneliness is a horrible state and can happen to any of us. It's a kind gesture to do what you can to alleviate the loneliness that your neighbors are experiencing. Of course we can't take on the responsibility of keeping someone entertained full-time, but a smile and a chat may go a long way. Have you ever been lonely, and how did you deal with it?