It's painful when your best friend becomes your worst enemy. You feel betrayed and you struggle to understand how someone so close to you could drift so far away. Many times there are hurtful recriminations that you struggle to understand – and there may be some responsibility on your end as well. In many ways, losing a close friend is worse than a break up, because this is your person, your confidante, your bestie. However, there are ways you can cope when your best friend becomes your worst enemy.
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1. Try to Talk It out
The first thing you need to do when your best friend becomes your worst enemy is to try and talk it out. It's best if you can do it when you feel the friendship starting to slide into enemy territory, but if that's not possible, at least give it a try as soon as possible. You may need to wait until certain wounds scab over or until tempers cool a little, but if you want to salvage the friendship, it's worth a shot. Understand, however, that talking it out won't always be possible.
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Communication is essential, and when emotions aren't running high, find a neutral place to meet. Approach the conversation with an open heart and listen as much as you talk. Remember to be honest about your feelings without being accusatory. Sometimes, misunderstandings and unsaid expectations can turn friendships sour. Acknowledge your part in the disagreement and don't shy away from the difficult topics. If your friend is truly valuable to you, then putting your pride aside and working through the conflict is key. If the chat doesn't go well, at least you'll know you gave it your best shot.
Oh, that's such a tough situation. There could be so many reasons behind it—misunderstandings, jealousy, or even outside influences. Sometimes people grow apart or change in ways that clash. It's super painful, I know.
Ugh, that’s awkward and tough. Try to stay civil and keep interactions brief. Focus on your other friends, or find activities and hobbies that make you happy and help you meet new people.
Honestly, it depends on both of you. If both sides are willing to talk things out and make amends, there's a chance. But sometimes, moving on is healthier, even if it’s really hard.
Time and distance are your best friends here. It might help to talk to someone about your feelings or write them down. Focus on self-care and things that make you happy to distract yourself from the negative emotions.
It happens sometimes! People grow and change, and maybe after some time apart, you might find common ground again. But don’t rush it and always put your emotional well-being first.
2. Take Time to Grieve
As I mentioned, the end of a friendship is sometimes even more painful than the end of a romantic relationship. Give yourself time to grieve it, even if things do end up getting better. Losing your friend hurts, and you won't be the same again. You may not be able to trust another BFF any time soon, and you need to give yourself time to deal with that.
Oh, that's such a tough situation. There could be so many reasons behind it—misunderstandings, jealousy, or even outside influences. Sometimes people grow apart or change in ways that clash. It's super painful, I know.
Ugh, that’s awkward and tough. Try to stay civil and keep interactions brief. Focus on your other friends, or find activities and hobbies that make you happy and help you meet new people.
Honestly, it depends on both of you. If both sides are willing to talk things out and make amends, there's a chance. But sometimes, moving on is healthier, even if it’s really hard.
Time and distance are your best friends here. It might help to talk to someone about your feelings or write them down. Focus on self-care and things that make you happy to distract yourself from the negative emotions.
It happens sometimes! People grow and change, and maybe after some time apart, you might find common ground again. But don’t rush it and always put your emotional well-being first.
3. Branch out Your Friendships
Don't isolate yourself, however, and don't shut out all your other friends. More importantly, don't let this one ending keep you from at least trying to get close to other friends, even if they're new ones. You're not trying to make your old bestie jealous here, but you need to branch out into new friendships. Surround yourself with people you like, people with whom you have things in common, people who seem trustworthy.
Oh, that's such a tough situation. There could be so many reasons behind it—misunderstandings, jealousy, or even outside influences. Sometimes people grow apart or change in ways that clash. It's super painful, I know.
Ugh, that’s awkward and tough. Try to stay civil and keep interactions brief. Focus on your other friends, or find activities and hobbies that make you happy and help you meet new people.
Honestly, it depends on both of you. If both sides are willing to talk things out and make amends, there's a chance. But sometimes, moving on is healthier, even if it’s really hard.
Time and distance are your best friends here. It might help to talk to someone about your feelings or write them down. Focus on self-care and things that make you happy to distract yourself from the negative emotions.
It happens sometimes! People grow and change, and maybe after some time apart, you might find common ground again. But don’t rush it and always put your emotional well-being first.
4. Don't Give in to Insults
Unfortunately, it's somewhat common for new frenemies to get catty with one another. Insults, put downs, and accusations abound as two people who were once so close now use secrets and closely guarded confessions to strike out at one another. Don't give into that, even if your former friend is doing it. Be the bigger woman and hold onto your dignity – even if it seems like she's goading you into responding. In fact, at that point you should make it a special point to hold back and keep your tongue in check.
Oh, that's such a tough situation. There could be so many reasons behind it—misunderstandings, jealousy, or even outside influences. Sometimes people grow apart or change in ways that clash. It's super painful, I know.
Ugh, that’s awkward and tough. Try to stay civil and keep interactions brief. Focus on your other friends, or find activities and hobbies that make you happy and help you meet new people.
Honestly, it depends on both of you. If both sides are willing to talk things out and make amends, there's a chance. But sometimes, moving on is healthier, even if it’s really hard.
Time and distance are your best friends here. It might help to talk to someone about your feelings or write them down. Focus on self-care and things that make you happy to distract yourself from the negative emotions.
It happens sometimes! People grow and change, and maybe after some time apart, you might find common ground again. But don’t rush it and always put your emotional well-being first.
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5. Ignore the Situation
Sometimes you have to ignore your former friend. It will be hard, especially if you really miss her or if she's going out of her way to hurt you, but now's not the time to make amends or to engage in verbal warfare. If you ignore her antics, she'll quickly lose steam. Besides, if she's saying bad things about you, your remaining true friends aren't going to believe her; they know you.
Oh, that's such a tough situation. There could be so many reasons behind it—misunderstandings, jealousy, or even outside influences. Sometimes people grow apart or change in ways that clash. It's super painful, I know.
Ugh, that’s awkward and tough. Try to stay civil and keep interactions brief. Focus on your other friends, or find activities and hobbies that make you happy and help you meet new people.
Honestly, it depends on both of you. If both sides are willing to talk things out and make amends, there's a chance. But sometimes, moving on is healthier, even if it’s really hard.
Time and distance are your best friends here. It might help to talk to someone about your feelings or write them down. Focus on self-care and things that make you happy to distract yourself from the negative emotions.
It happens sometimes! People grow and change, and maybe after some time apart, you might find common ground again. But don’t rush it and always put your emotional well-being first.
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6. Try to Understand
This is hard too, but you should try to understand what went wrong, especially if you're looking for closure or have any hope of someday repairing the friendship. You have to take responsibility if you played a part in the rift and to do that, you have to understand what happened. You can't blame everything on her and she can't blame everything on you.
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Reflecting on the situation allows you to acknowledge any misunderstandings or actions that might have contributed to the fallout. It's vital to approach this with an open heart and a willingness to see things from your former friend's perspective. Dialogues with mutual friends could also provide insight, but be wary of turning these conversations into gossip sessions. Growth comes from facing tough realities, and in doing so, you may find a clearer path to healing, whether that means reconciliation or moving on. Remember, understanding isn't about allocating blame; it's about gaining clarity.
Oh, that's such a tough situation. There could be so many reasons behind it—misunderstandings, jealousy, or even outside influences. Sometimes people grow apart or change in ways that clash. It's super painful, I know.
Ugh, that’s awkward and tough. Try to stay civil and keep interactions brief. Focus on your other friends, or find activities and hobbies that make you happy and help you meet new people.
Honestly, it depends on both of you. If both sides are willing to talk things out and make amends, there's a chance. But sometimes, moving on is healthier, even if it’s really hard.
Time and distance are your best friends here. It might help to talk to someone about your feelings or write them down. Focus on self-care and things that make you happy to distract yourself from the negative emotions.
It happens sometimes! People grow and change, and maybe after some time apart, you might find common ground again. But don’t rush it and always put your emotional well-being first.
7. Keep It Cordial
If you run in the same circles, work in the same place, or live in the same town, you can't always ignore the situation. That's okay. Just stay cordial. By being as polite as possible, then again, you come off as the bigger woman and you retain your self respect. In this kind of situation, that's incredibly important.
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If you run in the same circles, work in the same place, or live in the same town, you can't always ignore the situation. That's okay. Just stay cordial. By being as polite as possible, then again, you come off as the bigger woman and you retain your self-respect. In this kind of situation, that's incredibly important. Be ready to have short, casual conversations if necessary and maintain a calm demeanor. This helps to avoid unnecessary drama and leaves a positive impression on others who may notice the dynamic between you two. You deserve peace and poise, remember that.
Oh, that's such a tough situation. There could be so many reasons behind it—misunderstandings, jealousy, or even outside influences. Sometimes people grow apart or change in ways that clash. It's super painful, I know.
Ugh, that’s awkward and tough. Try to stay civil and keep interactions brief. Focus on your other friends, or find activities and hobbies that make you happy and help you meet new people.
Honestly, it depends on both of you. If both sides are willing to talk things out and make amends, there's a chance. But sometimes, moving on is healthier, even if it’s really hard.
Time and distance are your best friends here. It might help to talk to someone about your feelings or write them down. Focus on self-care and things that make you happy to distract yourself from the negative emotions.
It happens sometimes! People grow and change, and maybe after some time apart, you might find common ground again. But don’t rush it and always put your emotional well-being first.
8. Look for Distractions
As with any breakup, distractions will help get you through. Find a new hobby, new friends to hang out with, or new things to do. Throw yourself into work or studying, take up yoga, get some exercise, and don't dwell on your past friendship. Reflection is one thing, and there's a time for that, but don't make it the only thing you ever think about or you'll drive yourself crazy.
Oh, that's such a tough situation. There could be so many reasons behind it—misunderstandings, jealousy, or even outside influences. Sometimes people grow apart or change in ways that clash. It's super painful, I know.
Ugh, that’s awkward and tough. Try to stay civil and keep interactions brief. Focus on your other friends, or find activities and hobbies that make you happy and help you meet new people.
Honestly, it depends on both of you. If both sides are willing to talk things out and make amends, there's a chance. But sometimes, moving on is healthier, even if it’s really hard.
Time and distance are your best friends here. It might help to talk to someone about your feelings or write them down. Focus on self-care and things that make you happy to distract yourself from the negative emotions.
It happens sometimes! People grow and change, and maybe after some time apart, you might find common ground again. But don’t rush it and always put your emotional well-being first.
9. Realize It's Time to Move on
Sometimes friendships can be repaired but at other times, there's just too much damage. Maybe time will heal those wounds, but that doesn't always happen. Maybe you have no interest in rekindling your relationship, or perhaps your friend is quits for good. Whatever the case, realize when you're beating a dead horse and do everything you can to move on in a new direction.
If you're lucky, you've never had to deal with this frankly devastating situation. If you have, you know how extremely hard it is. Do you have any tips to share on how you got over the heartache? Let us know how you got through, and if you were ever able to reconcile when your bestie became your biggest frenemy.
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Sumer: I have had this happen. And these tips would have been very helpful
Bethany: Mine just became best friends with my absolute worst enemy and hates me
Kate: This is my relationship with my bestfriend. She always gets on my nerves, and she always tries to get into fights with me. For example I'll zone out and she'll say "so you're mad at me", or my favorite, "you're in a bitchy mood today".
Estelle: My bestfriend is becoming really close with my Bully who has bullied me for 5 years! I don't know what to do!? It's really upsetting that were not close anymore!
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