7 Types of Friends Every Girl Needs in Her Social Circle ...

Oops sorry that was long. I won't write any comments for another week. Let you people recover.

This is a very thoughtful post...I like it!

I'd love to have these types of friends.

I had two best friends like this that I had known since we were little. But as we grew up the girls started to be really mean (not to me) and hated and talked badly about almost everyone else in the grade. Since I had known them since I was little, I don't realize they had changed until one of my other friends pointed it out. After that I couldn't ignore how judge mental and harsh they were, so I started to drift away a little bit. I had always been friends with a lot of other girls in the grade unlike my two best friends, but since people associated me with them, I was not really in any other group. But as I started to drift away, my two best friends became mad at me for being friends with other people, all of which they hated without reason. They would say I was "kissing up" to the other girls or "being fake, just like them" when I was really just socializing. Toward the end of the year they were barely speaking to me, I tried to apologize (I didn't think I had really done anything wrong) and I never like Burning bridges but they didn't take the apology and won't say a word to me. The other people I am friends with I never got the chance to get too close with since I was deal with my best friends and now it is summer and there is no one I can really hang out with. I can't invite my self to the things my other friends are doing and they don't invite me because I was always associated with my two best friends, who hate everyone, and people assumed I was the same. I know this isn't the exactly the place to ask but since this article was on friends I was just wondering if anyone had any thoughts. Should I try to befriend my old best friends or am I better off without them? And if I am then what do I do now?

@Bri_kenmore I see what you mean and it is a very complicated matter but even if you feel alone you don't have to feel obligated to befriend them again if it's not what you really want. If you came to the realization that they changed into something negative that isn't pleasant to surround yourself with, you might have to leave it at that. It's not easy to alter who you hang out with after being friends with the same people for so long but it's even harder to accept that these people you thought you knew have changed so much. I have a friend I can go to for literally anything and she understands me like no other and I also have friends who I love to death but am not as close with because they are better at getting my mind off things instead of talking about my problems, which is fine since I don't know what I'd do without any of them. All in all you have two options. You can accept the way your previous friends have changed and try to make new ones. Of course since people associate you with them it's harder to make new friends but not impossible. You just have to throw yourself out there and prove you aren't who they think you are because they'll assume the worst until you prove them wrong. Even if it means people are reluctant to give you a chance and you have to create your own opportunity to do so. Your other option is to balance the pros and the cons and decide what you think is worth it. You've known them since you were little so if you truly believe they are still good people underneath it all, you might decide the friendship is worth fighting for and try to make them see how they've changed so they can realize it the way you did and possible become friends again.

Real friends won't drag you through the mud, they'll pull you out of it!

I have often been a good friend, even been in a few of these roles. But most times my closest friends have betrayed me and it's been so disappointing to even wonder why they would do that. 7 friends so far that I considered close and sisterly. It's how women are. I don't want to say they were jealous because that would blowing my own trumpet. But some male friend said he observed some of my friends behaviours and interpreted it as jealousy. When I spoke to my mum she said I should think of friends as just acquaintances. Not until you have truly tested someone's character should elevate them to friend status. Friendship come and go. If you find a friend that is willing to help you in your career I say your very lucky, the the opportunity before that friend changes their mind. Little example that happened to me. There was recently a vacancy at work. I wasn't particularly interested because I want to leave the company and work elsewhere anyway due to the training I did. Friend A calls me and says why don't you apply for this job. I said well in all honesty it's not what I'm looking for. So she pushes on several occasions saying it will be good interview practice for a low level supervisory role. Eventually I give in. I am sharp enough to pass the interview having given my manager quite a few ideas at work which he went on to implement (as his own ideas). I proceeded to go over my work related training and the company website. Also looked for outside inspiration to throw a bone to interview panel as fodder for an informal warm up chat...as you do. Morning of the interview friend A sends a cryptic message on what's app. She wrote 2 words which I guessed were some hints about the questions she would ask me during interview. Mind you through the my dealings were I never asked her any hints about what she would ask me. So that morning I didn't call or text back because my conscience just can't allow that. So in the interview she came up with the most strangely worded question. I was baffled as to what she meant. As I thought of her 'hints' I failed to get her. I had to ask to get back to her questions after a few minutes while I dealt with the panels questions which were lovely. My manger who also interviewed me looked a bit uncomfortable because he knew we were friends. Afterwards I thought what the hell had A been trying to do. Her hints were not at all related to her question and by texting me it just resulted in me feeling a bit daft as I tried to link the two. I realised in the end that she knew the hints would have that effect on me. Without her hints I would have answered without fault wrong. Friends?...you have to be careful. I got offered the job in the end though because I apparently answered very well.

My best friend is all of these lol

This has been very useful

I agree. I have friends like that. It is a gift. I would recommend it.