7 Great Ways to Become a Great Conversationalist ...

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You can become a great conversationalist even if you aren't much of a talker.

Personally, I have always hated small talk.

Please don't talk to me about the weather, unless it truly is remarkable.

Although I am not a fan of long conversations, there have been many times when I have found myself in situations with no way out.2

So I started to test out ways to become a great conversationalist and they actually work!

1. Listen

Listen

If you can learn to become a great listener, you will also become a great conversationalist.

Most people love to talk about themselves so just make it a point to listen to what they are saying.2

Once you hear something that you can discover more about, you can ask them a question and this will build on the conversation.

Don't just hear them, allowing what they say to go in one ear and out the other.

Be proactive about it and process what they are saying to you;

this is listening.

2. Ask Questions

Ask Questions

You don't want the conversation to sound like an interview or interrogation, so you want the questions you ask to be timely and appropriate.

This may take some practice if you aren't used to conversing, but practice makes perfect, right?

Actually perfect practice makes perfect.

Say you are talking with someone and they mention their boyfriend.

This is the perfect time to ask them the story of how they met.2

3. Be Observant

Be Observant

Take some time to notice what they are wearing, if they have an accent, or anything else that sets them apart as an individual.

These are all entry points for asking questions and adding to the conversation.

It may seem silly to do this at first, but you may be surprised at what you discover from being observant and asking questions.

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