When you're having trouble letting go of the past, you may need some ways to help you move on. However painful it may be, we have to work through feelings of loss and regret. We cannot go back and change the past, so it's essential to let go and concentrate on the present. Try these ways to help you move on, and you'll be able to look forward …
1. Forgive Yourself
One of the most helpful ways to help you move on is to forgive yourself for any mistakes you have made. We are often highly self-critical, more so than other people would be. To err is human, so accept that you have done things that you would have done differently with the benefit of hindsight. You made the best decision at the time.
It may also help to accept things that have happened and come to terms with them. Nobody can get through their life without problems and sad events occurring. It's almost inevitable that at some point we are going to experience a bad break-up, lose someone dear to us, or have work problems. The important thing is to do what you can and not remain angry.
3. Make Changes
Another way to move on is to make some changes in your life. This allows you to refocus on more positive aspects. Are you always making the same mistakes in love? Look at what you have done wrong and start changing your way of behaving.
4. Focus on the Positive
Have you ever met one of those people who are always complaining about what has gone wrong in their life? This is such a negative viewpoint and leaves them stuck in the past. It's so much better to focus on the positive aspects of your life, rather than dwelling on what went wrong. The only useful aspect of thinking about past problems is that you can learn from them.
Inspirational quotes can be a very useful way of helping you to move on. They often hold important truths. Take this one from Steve Maraboli: "some people are a part of your history, but not a part of your destiny." So if a relationship has broken up, you can come to terms with the loss by understanding that they were once an important part of your life, but it was not meant to last.
6. Follow Examples
There are also some pretty inspiring people out there who can show you how to move on. Is there someone you admire? Think of how they've overcome issues from their past and moved on with their life. Follow their example and you'll see how people do manage to deal with their problems.
7. Let Go
Finally, it's essential to let go of the past if you're going to move on. I've met people who were still obsessing over perceived wrongs from years earlier. Bad things happen, and often to people who don't deserve it. That is an unfortunate fact of life. Don't let past events occupy a place in your life that they don't deserve.
Although we can be deeply affected by things from our past, there comes a time when we have to leave them in the past where they belong. We can't live our lives well if we don't. Have you known someone who lives in the past and seems to be incapable of moving on?