You are probably already aware of the Girl Code Book; it’s one of the first things we learn about when it comes to friendships. Female friendships specifically can get a little complicated, which is why we have a certain set of rules that define what should be praised and what should be looked down upon. Women take this seriously and traditionally, a person who breaks any of these rules has the punishment of getting the cold shoulder. In order to avoid that let’s remind ourselves of some of the top Girl Code Book rules.
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1. Don’t Date the Ex
One of the most important Girl Code Book rules is " Thou shall not date a friend’s boyfriend/ex." It is one of the biggest sins a girl can commit according to the Girl Code. Your friend might still have feelings for her ex and the last thing she wants is her best friend going after her leftovers. Think about it; there are so many fish in the sea and for some odd reason you choose your friend’s ex? However, one exception to this rule is when your friend is completely over her ex and gives you permission to date. But let’s be real, this situation should just be avoided at all costs.
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Navigating this treacherous relationship terrain requires tact, honesty, and clear communication. If you find yourself contemplating a pursuit, talk to your friend first. This step not only shows respect but also helps gauge if moving forward might cause unnecessary rifts. Keep in mind, even with a so-called "green light," you're wading into potentially awkward social gatherings and mixed friendship feelings. Always ask yourself if this romantic possibility is worth the high stakes of your cherished friendships. Remember, the glue that binds the Girl Code is mutual respect and understanding for one another’s feelings and boundaries.
This is a tricky one! It really depends on your friendship with your best friend and how she feels about it. Honest communication is key here.
That can be super awkward! Talk to your brother and your best friend separately. Make sure everyone’s feelings are considered and no one's hurt.
It could complicate things if you break up. Plus, it might make your friend uncomfortable. Always weigh the pros and cons carefully.
Be honest and gentle. She might be surprised or even upset at first, but if she’s a true friend, she’ll appreciate your honesty.
This one’s usually a no-go. It can feel like a betrayal and make things messy. It’s better to check with your friend first and be ready for any reaction.
2. Honesty is the Best Policy
Friends trust other friends to be honest with them and spare them the embarrassment, which is why you should always be straightforward with them. Tell your friend if you see flaky patches on her skin, if her skirt is too short or if there is something between her teeth. Don’t let her walk around the whole day unaware of what is going on. It might be awkward at first but you should always have her back.
This is a tricky one! It really depends on your friendship with your best friend and how she feels about it. Honest communication is key here.
That can be super awkward! Talk to your brother and your best friend separately. Make sure everyone’s feelings are considered and no one's hurt.
It could complicate things if you break up. Plus, it might make your friend uncomfortable. Always weigh the pros and cons carefully.
Be honest and gentle. She might be surprised or even upset at first, but if she’s a true friend, she’ll appreciate your honesty.
This one’s usually a no-go. It can feel like a betrayal and make things messy. It’s better to check with your friend first and be ready for any reaction.
3. Any Pictures on Social Media That Are Not Mutually Liked Should Be Removed
If you happen to post a picture of you and your friends without their permission that they are not happy with, you should immediately remove it from social media. If you like how you came out on the picture, you can always crop them out but don’t force them to go through the embarrassment or discomfort. You wouldn’t want the same thing done to you.
This is a tricky one! It really depends on your friendship with your best friend and how she feels about it. Honest communication is key here.
That can be super awkward! Talk to your brother and your best friend separately. Make sure everyone’s feelings are considered and no one's hurt.
It could complicate things if you break up. Plus, it might make your friend uncomfortable. Always weigh the pros and cons carefully.
Be honest and gentle. She might be surprised or even upset at first, but if she’s a true friend, she’ll appreciate your honesty.
This one’s usually a no-go. It can feel like a betrayal and make things messy. It’s better to check with your friend first and be ready for any reaction.
4. Friends Must Defend the Reputation of a Friend No Matter What
As a friend you are obligated to defend your friend to others. If you hear other people accuse or judge your friend based on her mistakes, make it your mission to tell them otherwise. Even if they are saying the truth, don’t sit there letting them stain her reputation and take it upon yourself to stop the negative talk!
This is a tricky one! It really depends on your friendship with your best friend and how she feels about it. Honest communication is key here.
That can be super awkward! Talk to your brother and your best friend separately. Make sure everyone’s feelings are considered and no one's hurt.
It could complicate things if you break up. Plus, it might make your friend uncomfortable. Always weigh the pros and cons carefully.
Be honest and gentle. She might be surprised or even upset at first, but if she’s a true friend, she’ll appreciate your honesty.
This one’s usually a no-go. It can feel like a betrayal and make things messy. It’s better to check with your friend first and be ready for any reaction.
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5. Thou Shall Not Fight over a Guy
There is no worse a reason to fight with a friend than a guy. If your friend has proven that she is trustworthy and loyal over the years, both of you should choose each other over him. Boyfriends come and go but true friends are truly hard to find. Unless of course your ‘close’ friend committed the sin of dating your boyfriend, then of course she should be evicted from Girlville.
This is a tricky one! It really depends on your friendship with your best friend and how she feels about it. Honest communication is key here.
That can be super awkward! Talk to your brother and your best friend separately. Make sure everyone’s feelings are considered and no one's hurt.
It could complicate things if you break up. Plus, it might make your friend uncomfortable. Always weigh the pros and cons carefully.
Be honest and gentle. She might be surprised or even upset at first, but if she’s a true friend, she’ll appreciate your honesty.
This one’s usually a no-go. It can feel like a betrayal and make things messy. It’s better to check with your friend first and be ready for any reaction.
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6. Don’t Ditch Your Friends for a Guy
No matter how in love you are with your boyfriend, don’t let him consume your life and don’t lose contact with your friends over your relationship. Couples need time apart and girls need some special girl time! Avoiding your friends and leaving your friendships behind might leave you all alone when your relationship is going through a rough patch.
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Remember, friends often outlast relationships, and they provide a support system that's irreplaceable. Keeping your friendships strong provides you with a network of people who love you for you. It's crucial to balance your time between your significant other and your friends. Never cancel on friends consistently for a partner; it sends the message that they’re not a priority. Over time, this could strain or even sever your friendships. So, schedule regular catch-ups and cherish the memories you build with your friends – they’re the pillars you might need in times of emotional turmoil.
This is a tricky one! It really depends on your friendship with your best friend and how she feels about it. Honest communication is key here.
That can be super awkward! Talk to your brother and your best friend separately. Make sure everyone’s feelings are considered and no one's hurt.
It could complicate things if you break up. Plus, it might make your friend uncomfortable. Always weigh the pros and cons carefully.
Be honest and gentle. She might be surprised or even upset at first, but if she’s a true friend, she’ll appreciate your honesty.
This one’s usually a no-go. It can feel like a betrayal and make things messy. It’s better to check with your friend first and be ready for any reaction.
7. Dating a Brother Requires Permission
Under no circumstances should you date your friend’s brother in secret. It’s shady and plain rude to your friend. Getting permission from your friend will make you feel better about yourself and really show you if this relationship is even worth it! However be careful of dating the brother of your best friend because sometimes things can get messy, hearts may be broken and friends may be lost.
The Girl Code Book should be followed under all circumstances; the failure to do so will result in pain and drama. It is our duty as women to protect and support each other, especially when we are bound by a close friendship. What is one of your top Girl Code Rules you wish every woman knew about?
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Comments
izzy: is it ok to date your stepbrother
Terra: #6 happens way too often these days.
Jokamau: Ugh. I honestly would never permit my friend to date my brother. NO.
Rose: The #1 policy none of my friends respect, my best friend at that time will always go for my ex. It really sucks
Jenna: #4 is always forgotten. It's like women jump at any chance they have to bad mouth anyone. Even their "best friend"
Brittany: This goes for #6. My best friend has a boyfriend but I feel like she's a little too much into him because a week ago we both went to New York to go see a concert and part of my family and I noticed that she texted and called her boyfriend more than she talked to me (at least that's how I felt and what I think), I was hoping for the trip to strenghten our friendship bond but instead I feel the opposite way. After the concert, we had to find the subway and get back to my cousins apartment and the whole time on the way back she was on the phone with her boyfriend and I was kind of getting annoyed cause I wanted the trip to be more about us, spending more time together and our friendship. Then going back home, she was getting pissed off cause her boyfriend wouldn't respond to her text(s) from the night before and our flight was in the morning; so I told her that he probably was still sleeping and to not overthink it. She didn't want to believe me for some reason and jjust got pissed at him. By then, I was already annoyed cause I felt like the whole trip wasn't even about us but more about her and her boyfriend. By the way, we were only staying in New York for about 3 and half days. I am happy for her and support their relationship but sometimes it irks me and I don't know why. I tried telling her this during the delay we had at the airport on how she talked to him a lot and she said she didn't even though I pointed out the times she spoke to him. Am I a bad friend for thinking like this? Can someone give me advice about this type of situation?
Ashlee: i am 12 and i have a friend at school i broke the girl code i cant get over it :(
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