You might think that everyone likes to receive compliments, but that’s just not quite true, because there actually are a lot of people (I was one of them when I was a teen) who actually don’t like to receive them and that’s why, in this little article, I would like to share with you a few pretty stupid reasons why some people hate receiving compliments. I must admit that, indeed, compliments aren’t always compliments, that sometimes they can be actually some mean things put nicely. You should keep in mind that not all people are frenemies, and as soon as you understand why some people hate receiving compliments, you will pay more attention to the way you react every time you receive a compliment.
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1. Low Self-Esteem
The main reason why some people hate receiving compliments is the fact that they have a very low self-esteem and somewhere deep inside them, they actually think they don’t deserve to be appreciated or praised because their actions are worthless. Well, this is the perfect way to sabotage yourself. If you’ve noticed you think like that every time you receive a compliment, you should definitely do something about controlling those dysfunctional thoughts.
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Low self-esteem can be a major contributing factor to why some people hate receiving compliments. This can be caused by negative self-talk, perfectionism, and feeling like they are not worthy of praise. It can also be caused by a lack of confidence in one's abilities or self-image. People with low self-esteem may also have difficulty accepting compliments because they feel like it is undeserved or that they will be judged for receiving it. It is important for people to be aware of how their self-esteem may be affecting their ability to accept compliments. It is also important to remember that compliments are a sign of appreciation and should be embraced.
2. They Feel Anxious
Another main reason why certain people hate receiving compliments is the fact that compliments make them anxious, they feel intimidated and they don’t know how to react or how to answer in such a situation. If you’re one of those people, you shouldn’t worry! With a bit of practice and some hard work, you will manage to solve all these troubling issues and receiving compliments won’t seem such a big nightmare anymore.
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Being anxious about receiving compliments can sometimes stem from a deeper feeling of unworthiness or imposter syndrome, where individuals doubt their accomplishments and fear being "exposed" as a fraud. It's like a little voice inside your head undermines every nice thing said about you. However, it's crucial to remember that you deserve the kindness coming your way, and with each compliment, you can chip away at that voice of self-doubt. Start with a simple 'thank you' and let yourself bask in the positivity others see in you. Practice makes perfect, and confidence will follow!
3. They Hate Being the Center of Attention
I’m a shy person, I’ve always been shy, but I always tried to fight it. I used to hate receiving compliments because I hate being the center of attention. I know now that this is a dysfunctional way of thinking and that there’s nothing to be afraid of if you do find yourself in the center of attention. For some people, it’s quite pleasant to receive all the applause and it should be like that for you too.
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Being shy can turn a kind word into discomfort, whereas the spotlight should be a warm place. Embracing appreciation doesn't come naturally to everyone, but it’s an art worth mastering. Try seeing compliments as mini-gifts—not just for your ego, but for your soul. Celebrate those moments and let them in. After all, compliments are often given in admiration, not expectation. It’s okay to simply say “thank you” and allow yourself a smile. With time, the discomfort may just fade, replaced by a newfound confidence that revels in positive attention.
4. “They Must Want Something in Return”
I know that not all people are sincere and that there are in fact, a few people who are only being nice in order to achieve different things. You shouldn’t generalize, though! There are still a lot of genuine folks out there who want nothing in return if they give you a compliment. They are just being polite and they wanna make you feel good about yourself. Is that so hard to believe?
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5. “They Are Saying That out of Pity”
Another extremely stupid reason why some people hate receiving compliments is the fact that they believe that when someone gives them a compliment, they are actually saying all those nice things out of pity, because they’re trying to make them feel good about themselves, but none of it is actually true. Well, this type of thinking is also dysfunctional and it has a lot to do with low self-esteem, so you should work on that!
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6. “They Are Exaggerating”
Some people tend not to be aware of their true value and that’s why they hate receiving compliments. They believe that many of them are in fact exaggerated, thus aren’t true. If you’re one of those people, you should think that maybe, what seems so normal for you, may seem quite extraordinary for other people. That doesn’t mean their compliments aren’t genuine, or that they are exaggerated. It’s only their perspective on things, which differs from yours.
7. Depression
Another one of the reasons why some people hate receiving compliments is, of course, depression. Actually, it’s understandable why people who suffer from this affective disorder see things in such a manner, but with a bit of patience, a lot of hard work and motivation, they will manage to break free from that negative thinking pattern that is caused by the depression.
There you go, these were my 7 pretty stupid reasons why some people hate receiving compliments. Do you know any other reasons why someone wouldn’t like to receive compliments? Please share your thoughts with us in the comments section!
p.s.If you find it hard to accept complements read my other post for some great tips inspiration.allwomenstalk.com
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Tasha: If there's any reason u hate a compliment its a stupid reason. Sorry to say ladies but life is how u perceive it
Rocio: This article is appalling, you should be ashamed to have published this. Low self-esteem, depression equates stupidity? Great job for stigmatizing a mental disorder. Really considering deleting this app after this. People are entitled to their own opinions but this just speaks leaps and bounds about the sheer ignorance of some of the statements in articles.
Meghan: Well I am one of these people bc I feel that I don't deserve compliments. I've never loved the way I look and I just wonder sometimes how people can think I'm "gorgeous" when al I see is a Gargoyle in the mirror.
Luna: This is the most offensive and ignorant article I have ever read.
voyager: Hi! I’m sorry to invade your women place to talk. I may find another reason a woman doesn’t like to receive a compliment. I explain… I’m a man, sharing passionate love with one of your kind. She’s very attentive with me and she seems to not appreciate when a compliment her about her endearments. Today she asked me to don’t compliment her because “it makes her feel big headed”. I feel like my compliments had thrown some kind of distance between us. I don’t really understand her about this, I be delighted to receive your advices about it. Thx
Jocelyn: I wouldn't say they're stupid reasons
splashhhh: Yes I sgree with Ebangha 100% beside everyone has diff nature its wrong to call it stupid.
Ebangha: I agree with most of your points with the exception of depression. Serious illness are not "stupid" & we should all have a higher tolerance & acceptance for those who suffer from it.
tayylor: considering what the media pushes towards people now a days (what a normal person should look like in the medias mind..), I utterly don't think people with low self esteem are stupid at all
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