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Are You the Brutally Honest Person in Your Friend Group?

By Lyndsie

Brutal honesty is refreshing – sometimes. Yeah, sometimes it hurts, sometimes it even offends, but there comes a point in everyone's life when they need someone to be brutally honest. Maybe you're that person. In my experience, every friend group has an honest member who refuses to mince words or candy coat the truth. That's the person everyone goes to when they need to sip some tea without any sugar, if you get what I'm saying. But is it you? Are you the brutally honest person in your friend group? Maybe …

1 Everyone Asks for Your Opinion

Everyone Asks for Your Opinion You're the go-to, even if you're not exactly knowledgeable about the subject. It's because your friends know you'll learn the facts before you give your opinion, and you won't cloak it in anything other than honesty.

2 There's Usually at One Friend Who Isn't Speaking to You

There's Usually at One Friend Who Isn't Speaking to You Because they don't like what you had to say about something, typically. You're used to it by now and you know your friend will eventually come back.

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3 You Have to Teach Yourself Tact

You Have to Teach Yourself Tact You never want to compromise your honesty, but over the years, you've discovered the importance of showing more tact, especially when you're dealing with your friends.

4 You Censor Yourself around New People

You Censor Yourself around New People For example, when your friends bring over their friends or introduce you to a new boyfriend or girlfriend, you know you have to hold yourself back. New people often mistake your honesty for outright meanness even though you never intend to be mean.

5 You're Used to Your Friends Apologizing for You

You're Used to Your Friends Apologizing for You When they introduce you to new people, they often preface the conversation by saying that you don't mean to be offensive or advising everyone not to take you seriously. But no. Everyone should always take you seriously.

6 People Think You're Joking when You're Brutally Honest about Something

People Think You're Joking when You're Brutally Honest about Something You're not. Nope. The truth is funny sometimes, sure, but it's a mistake to think that your truthful observations are jokes.

7 Sometimes You Hold Yourself Back

Sometimes You Hold Yourself Back There's an observation you want to make or an opinion you want to give, but you know it's neither the time nor the place. Your tongue probably has a lot of scars from all the times you have to bite down on it.

8 People Are Surprised when You're Nice

People Are Surprised when You're Nice What? Because you're some kind of horrible monster because you're honest? FOH with that!

9 But It's Cool Because You Prefer Kindness to Niceness

But It's Cool Because You Prefer Kindness to Niceness Niceness can be dishonest. You can, however, be kind when you're being truthful, even when it's blunt.

10 You're Always Expected to Be the Strong One

You're Always Expected to Be the Strong One Somehow, your propensity for telling the blunt truth has translated into you always being the strong one. Always. Although you are strong, that doesn't mean you don't occasionally need support, too.

11 You Know the Difference between Honesty and Meanness

You Know the Difference between Honesty and Meanness Many people don't. Because the truth can hurt, they think that anyone who tells them a particularly painful truth is mean. That's not true at all.

12 You Feel Such Relief when You Reveal What You Really Think

You Feel Such Relief when You Reveal What You Really Think You know that sometimes you have to bite your tongue, but still, you feel so good when you point out an obvious truth that everyone else keeps missing.

13 You Hate Standing by when Someone Makes Bad Decisions

You Hate Standing by when Someone Makes Bad Decisions You know how important it is to let other people make their own mistakes, but you hate watching someone you care about make a decision that's bad for them. It's all you can do not to open your mouth and say something.

14 You Know You're Kind of Opinionated

You Know You're Kind of Opinionated As in, you let people know your opinions all the time … even if no one asks for your thoughts. It's something you can work on.

15 Your Face Always Gives Away Your True Feelings

Your Face Always Gives Away Your True Feelings You probably need to work on your poker face, too, but probably not. Why? Because ...

16 You Hate Little White Lies

You Hate Little White Lies You're so honest that even little white lies bug you – probably because you know how easy it is to start telling little lies all the time.

17 You Get Called Names a Lot, Even by Your Friends

You Get Called Names a Lot, Even by Your Friends You get called a bitch. People say you're cold, mean, and uncaring. You deal with it because you know it's not true – and because the name-calling says more about them than it says about you.

Are you the brutally honest one, or is it one of your friends?

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