As difficult as a breakup is, there are positive things that come from a relationship ending. It may not seem like it at the time but we can usually move on and realize it worked out for the best. It is painful to go through but focusing on the positive things that come from a relationship ending can be very helpful. It is my hope that these are comforting little thoughts to think on.
1. Brighter Days May Be Ahead
One of the positive things that come from a relationship ending is that happiness may be in sight for you again. A lot of times we deal with a lot of unhappiness and stress before a relationship ends. Knowing that those difficult days are behind you can help you to feel positive about the future. Things will begin to look bright again.
2. It’s a Time for Re-evaluation of What You Want
Another good thing that comes from a relationship ending is that it provides you with an opportunity to think about what you really want out of a relationship. Re-evaluation is something we should do after we go through a break up to see if there are any different traits we want to look for in the next person we meet. I took my time and did this very carefully when I went through a divorce. I approached what I wanted in my next relationship in a very analytical, practical way. It ended up being a huge benefit to my current relationship.
3. There Are Lessons to Learn
From everything that we go through in our lives, there are lessons that we can learn. This absolutely applies to a breakup. We can learn what we should have done differently. We may realize that we tolerated too much or were too impatient with the person we were with. Trying to find a lesson in a breakup can be a very positive experience. You usually don’t have to look very hard to find something.
4. You Can Rediscover Yourself
Sometimes, when we are part of a couple, we can get really wrapped up in that. We can sometimes let being part of a couple be a huge part of our identity. We can kind of lose touch with ourselves. When you are single again, it is an opportunity to rediscover who you are. Use this precious time to think about what your values are and who you really are.
5. You Can Focus on You
When you are part of a couple, you can get really wrapped up in doing all things as a twosome. You kind of forget how nice it is to get to focus on yourself. You can enjoy doing whatever you want without considering anyone else; rent a stack of chick flicks, order a pizza that is just the way you like it or whatever else your heart desires.
6. You Have More Time with Friends
When you are single, you have more time on your hands. This can be a good thing. You can spend more time with friends. Sometimes when we are part of a couple, we end up spending the majority of our time with that person and our friends can kind of get left by the wayside. Enjoy this positive aspect of a relationship ending to be with your friends more.
7. You Will Most Likely Be More Peaceful
The end of a relationship can be stressful. There may have been arguments or a lot of tension between you and your partner. Now, all of that is behind you and you can enjoy having peace and harmony in your life once again.
Although the end of a relationship is sad, there are some positive things that can come from it. What positive things have come from a relationship ending for you in your life? Your comments may encourage those going through the same thing.