7 Ways Intersectional Feminism Benefits Every Woman ...

It's all too easy to look at feminism and say that it's for all women and that it pushes for the equality of all women. In theory, that's true. In theory, feminism is for everyone – men, women, and people who are non-binary – because equality benefits everyone. In practice, however, things aren't quite that clear-cut. It's impossible to level the playing field between women and men when the field between women and women isn't level itself. Ideally, feminism benefits all women. In the real world, women of color are still buried beneath the stereotypes connected to their race and their gender.

The word “privilege” sets off all kinds of feelings among white people because there's this idea that it means you're rich, you've never struggled, and your life has been easy. That's not what it means at all. Your personal experiences are absolutely valid. You might be dirt poor, or maybe you've spent your whole life working hard for what you have. Privilege doesn't take that away from you. It means that white people, as a whole, have things easier – and we do. In terms of feminism, it means that white women, as a whole, have things easier – and we do.

Admitting privilege doesn't invalidate your struggles. So, that means you don't have to invalidate someone else's struggles, either – they have no bearing on yours. That being said, it's so important to listen when women of color discuss the experiences they've had with sexism and racism. It's essential to understand where they're coming from and to recognize that, as a whole, white women don't overwhelmingly share those experiences. Your individual struggle might be different, but doesn't that give you a foundation for understanding, a patch of common ground? As feminists, we urge women to speak up, to speak out, to voice their experiences – that means we have to let all women speak up.

Once you start listening, you open yourself up to new perspectives. You learn about the experiences of other women, which makes you a better advocate for all women. It allows you to empathize with more women, and that will allow you to stand up for more women, which in turn guarantees that you'll help more women. It's all about perspective, really.

I'm white, but I'm a lesbian. Growing up, until Ellen, really, I saw no representation on TV and very little in movies, which is one of the reasons why I struggled with my sexuality so much before I came out. That's a small thing, but it was painful. Imagine never seeing anyone who looks like you in popular culture. Imagine not being able to find yourself in books or movies. Diversity is another idea that's fantastic in theory but seems to be harder in practice. You know how women are told that no one wants to see us starring in blockbuster movies or comedic roles? Women of color are further told that no one wants to see a cast who looks like them. They're told they're not beautiful or compelling or interesting. Does anyone deserve a message like that?

Point blank. Until we're all equal, none of us are equal. It's as simple as that.

We can't keep blanking out voices because we don't want to hear what they have to say. Every woman has a voice, a story, an example of discrimination, sexism, and violence. They are all valid. They are all necessary.

I don't mean to preach, although I realize I kind of did. This subject is important to me, though. We need to acknowledge it and we need to listen to the women who are having these experiences.