Here's How to Say "No" like a Lady ...


It can be difficult to tell someone no.

You feel put on the spot.

You may worry that you’ll upset the person or come off as sounding rude.2

These are 7 tips to help you say no in a kind and considerate manner while still honoring what’s best for you.

1. Give Yourself Permission to Say No

The very first step you have to take is giving yourself permission to say no.

You have to realize that you can’t be all things to all people.

You have your limitations.

There are times you can say yes but you should only do so when the circumstances are right for you.

You should also feel the freedom to say no when it doesn’t work for you.

2. Say “I Can’t” Instead of Only Saying “No”

Sometimes you may want to say that you can’t do something instead of just saying no.

There are reasons that you can’t say yes to things.

It may be that your calendar is full or that you don’t feel you can do what someone is asking of you.3

It may even be that you’re trying to work on saying no more often.

Whatever the reason, it’s okay to say that you can’t do something instead of giving a straightforward no.

3. Explain the Reason You’re Unable to Say Yes

You’re under no obligation to explain why you can’t do something but it can help you come across in a caring way.

You might say that you have too many obligations or that you’ll be out of town at the time someone is asking you to do something.

Giving an explanation is up to you.

One benefit of explaining is that it can help them to understand your position.

Most people will offer you understanding in this situation.

Sympathize with the Situation They’re in
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