Who Says You Shouldn't Follow Controversial Advice? ...

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Have you ever been offered any controversial advice?

As a rule, most life advice is pretty positive, and most of the time, a bit obvious.

It’s the stuff that you can imagine your grandparents telling you, or a life mentor.

It can feel a bit idealistic, though.

I mean, sure, we all want to believe that one day a Prince will come, or that you’ll always be able to smile through the rain, but it’s not always totally realistic.

That’s why, sometimes, controversial advice shouldn’t just be ignored.

Here are the bits you should definitely consider taking…

1. Blood Isn’t Thicker than Water

Okay, biologically it is, but we’re talking philosophically for this piece of controversial advice.

Your family doesn’t get a free pass to treat you however they like just because you are related.

Your family isn’t everything.

While you should try to get on with your family, and having them around will benefit you when you need a support network in the future, you don’t need them.

Don’t let people get away with treating you badly just because of how they are related to you.

Demand respect and decency.

2. Love Doesn’t Conquer All

We grow up surrounded by beliefs on what love is.

It should be all encompassing, it’s hearts and flowers, it’s happily ever after.

The reality, though, is that love doesn’t conquer everything.

It’s not all Hallmark moments.

Love is quiet, and modest, and sometimes, love is hard work.

You’ll have to compromise.

You have to put up with flaws, and arguments, and someone else's moods.

Sometimes you’ll fall out of love, or you won’t find a compromise, or you’ll decide it’s too much effort.

That’s okay, though, because you’ll find someone else to love.

It’s not perfect, and that’s okay.

3. Forgiveness Isn’t Essential

In an ideal world, we’d all be able to live without feeling angry, or getting hurt.

We wouldn’t ever need to think about forgiving people or moving on.

This isn’t an ideal world, though, and there can be a lot of pressure to forgive people who have hurt you.

It’s okay not to.

It’s okay not to be able to forgive some things, or not to want to be friends with someone who has hurt you or let you down.

As long as you are adult enough to deal with your emotions maturely, you don’t need to edit them.2

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