Fights with your best friend can be unbelievably tough. After all, this is the gal who watched cheesy flicks with you after your first breakup and helped you plan every birthday party. But the reality is that no matter how close you two are, everyone has their squabbles. So, before you write your bestie off, here’s how to resolve that fight and get your best pal back in your life.
A fight with your best friend can make you angry and defensive (it happens to the best of us), but you’ll have to open your heart and mind if you really want her back. There are reasons why you’ve had that argument, so hear her out. Even if you believe that she’s to blame for the battle, give her the chance to explain herself. At the same time, make sure that she gets your side of the story –the first step in resolving any fight is to figure out why it started in the first place!
2. Acknowledge Your Mistakes
No matter how many times you wish on the brightest star in the night sky, fights with your best friend won’t magically resolve themselves. After figuring out where you’ve both gone wrong, recognize your part in the drama and make an effort to change your ways.
3. Swallow Your Pride
An “I’m sorry” can jumpstart the healing process, so don’t be too arrogant to take the high road. It takes two to start a bout, but one to extend that olive branch. And don’t you want to be known for your peacemaking ways?
4. Make a Noticeable Effort
If you want your BFF to believe that working on your friendship is a top priority, you need to make a good, old fashioned effort. No, neither one of you can control a temper nor cease gossiping overnight, but you’ll both notice each other’s determination.
5. Be Respectful
Fights with your best friend can bring out the worst in you, but you’re going to have to keep your mean side under control if you really want her back in your life. Cursing, yelling, or name-calling will drive her even further away, so step away from Facebook chat and give yourself time to cool off. You’ll thank me in a few days!
6. Give Her Space
If you’re used to spending every afternoon by your bestie’s side, some time apart can allow you both to cool off and heal. So, if she asks for space, don’t text her every time your crush passes you in the hallway. And if you’re the one who’s been hurt by her mistakes, don’t hesitate to ask for time to pick up the pieces.
7. Let the Scars Heal
A fight with your best friend can be undeniably painful, but it’ll be a lot worse if you decide to bring up every little thing she’s ever done wrong. Getting back at her for tiffs you’ve had in the past can result in the end of a friendship...for good.
8. Respect Her Decision
Unfortunately, not all friendships were built to last. If she decides that this relationship is beyond repair, moving on is the only healthy thing to do. Focus on the wonderful, witty, amazing friends you do have and put yourself out there. Who knows –your new BFF could be in that photography club you’ve always wanted to join! On the other hand, if you’re the one to break the friendship, do so in a way that is direct yet compassionate (you don’t want enemies, right?).
Fights with your best friend are never easy. Which tips will you follow when resolving your issues with your BFF? Do you have any of your own to add?
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