Whether you’re bothered by your boyfriend’s hot new coworker or how much money your boss makes, there are always ways to reduce your jealousy. It’s natural to be envious of those who are more successful or attractive than you, but there’s no reason to let them get you down. Never let them diminish your self-worth. The next time your emotions flare up, use one of the following ways to reduce your jealousy.
1. Avoid Negative Thoughts
One of the ways to reduce your jealousy when it comes to relationships is to avoid negative thoughts. Don’t waste time worrying about what he’s doing when you’re not around or wondering if he’ll break up with you for the pretty girl in his office. One of my favorite quotes is by Michael J. Fox. He once said, "Don't spend a lot of time imagining the worst-case scenario. It rarely goes down as you imagine it will, and if by some fluke it does, you will have lived it twice." So why worry?
2. Be Productive
If you’re jealous of those more successful than you, put those thoughts to good use. Use your envy to fuel your productivity. I want to be a writer and get jealous when I read or watch something wonderfully written. But seeing other author’s success makes me strive to better myself. Instead of moping about your life, change it.
3. Be Trusting
If you’re jealous when your boyfriend speaks to other girls or spends time with his ex, you have to learn to trust him. Know that he’s with you because he cares and that he could leave at any time if he preferred. If you think there’s a realistic chance he’ll cheat, then he’s not worth it anyway. End the relationship to relieve yourself of the pain. Don’t waste your time with someone you can’t trust.
4. Be Appreciative
Even if you know of people wealthier or happier than you, remember that there are positive parts to your life as well. Don’t forget about your loving family and hysterical best friend. You should even be thankful for that TV show that distracts you for a half-hour a week. By focusing on what you don’t have, you can pull yourself into a depression. Instead, consider all of the wonderful pieces of your life.
5. Be Thrifty
If you’re upset by your lack of money or the fancy wardrobe you can’t afford, save up. Sell some items online or budget yourself so that one day you’ll be able to have all of the things you wish were yours. You’re capable of changing your life and your financial situation. It may be difficult and take years to accomplish, but if you work hard enough, you should be able to reach your goal. Even if it seems like it’ll never happen, refuse to stop trying.
6. Be Negative
I know everyone tells you to see the positive in others, but here’s your chance to examine their faults. If you’re jealous of that flawless girl dating your crush or that friend with a sports car, realize that they have issues of their own. Even if they appear problem free, there are hidden issues. They could have personal problems or an illness that you aren’t aware of. Someone’s life may seem perfect, but it rarely is.
7. Be Patient
If you’re single and jealous of anyone in a relationship or with a child, be patient. Your time will come. Milestones occur at different times for different people. Just because you’re single now doesn’t mean you will be by tomorrow. So enjoy your life and try not to compare it with anyone else’s.
I hope these tips help you the next time the green monster takes over. Do you get jealous often? How do you deal with it?