How to be a lady? This question has plagued our grandmothers and great-grandmothers, but many of us don’t give this a second thought… until we have a special event to attend, or until we discover that Holly Golightly in “Breakfast at Tiffany’s” is exactly who we want to be when we grow up. Well, my darling, if you’re wondering how to be a lady, I can help! I’ve been spending a lot of time being a lady for more than a decade, and I have loads of tips to share… here are 7 tips on how to be a lady.
1. Don’t Sleep around
Don’t get me wrong. Sex is fun, and there’s nothing wrong with experimenting and seeing if the shoe fits before you buy it. But love, don’t sleep around. It’s not lady-like, and it’s not safe besides.
2. Don’t Smoke
Smoking used to be considered very lady-like and glamorous, but now it’s known to be unhealthy, dangerous, and smelly. If you don’t smoke, don’t start, and if you do smoke, quit. There’s something ladylike about persistence, too!
3. Don’t over-drink
Are you getting a trend here? Over-doing anything isn’t lady-like, and that includes over-drinking, which may make you less inhibited, and more likely to smoke or sleep around. It also makes you look sloppy, which I’ll talk more about below.
4. Don’t Be a Slob
Ladies aren’t slobs. It’s that simple. Dress neatly and keep your car and your house tidy. I’m not saying you and your house and car have to be spotless, but tidy, not sloppy.
5. Don’t Curse (too Much)
I am a true fan of the f-bomb, but I know it’s not lady-like to curse too much, so I try to save it for when I know it’s perfectly appropriate. Most other times, I use other words, either mild curses or simply other words that aren’t naughty.
6. Dress the Part
Ladies don’t wear pajama pants in public. Ladies don’t wear stained or dirty or ill-fitting clothes in public. Often, ladies wear skirts and dresses, modest clothes that suit their own styles and their figures. Jeans and dress pants are okay, of course, as long as they’re not too snug. Again, think Holly Golightly. What would Holly wear?
7. Be Polite
Ladies are also very polite. Yes, we have tempers, and it’s appropriate to be angry, but it’s never acceptable to be rude, to anyone, ever. Be polite to everyone, even when they don’t deserve it. This is one way how to be a lady people tend to forget, but it’s so important!
Now that you’ve read my list of how to be a lady, do you feel more lady-like already? Which of these ways to be a lady do you like best? Or is there another tip you’d like to share? Please do!