So, you're an adult out of school living at home with your parents. If you're stressed out by the constant questions of what your plan is, you're definitely not alone. Their constant nagging, guilt trips, and fighting over the remote are sending you right over the edge and making you question if it's even worth it to save money. Here are all of the tips you need to avoid having a breakdown and losing your mind from living at home with your family.
1. Make a List of House Rules
Having a serious conversation on what rules apply when you're no longer a kid living at home is a must. This will prevent any questions of what's acceptable and not. You could even write these on paper so there won't be any confusion. Is there a curfew? Do they want you buying your own groceries? How will you distribute the chores?
2. Saving Your Cash
You're probably living at home to save money for a future apartment or home, so the rent is way less than what you'd be spending outside of home. Try putting as much money as possible into savings at this time instead of spending it on new clothes and going out. Tempting, but so not worth it in the long run.
3. Give Back to Your Parents
Chip in with rent, bills, and other household expenses. This is an obvious one, but if you're parents aren't asking you to help, it may be difficult for you to make the decision on your own to fork over some money. You're an adult, after all.
4. Act like an Adult
If you want to be treated like you're grown up, you can't act like your teenage self. Ugh. I know. Temper tantrums won't work on your parents now, so act respectful even if you disagree. It's their house and their rules you have to follow if you want to live under their roof.
5. Long Term Plan
The dreaded long term plan. Everyone wants to know what your future will look like for things as big as your career, to as small as what your weekend plans are. Where do you see yourself in the next month, or year? Keeping your goals in mind will help you achieve even the smallest of tasks, so set some for yourself and set an estimated date of when you want to achieve those goals by.
6. Your Love Life Will Be Different
Since your parents are the homeowners, you most likely can't bring your boyfriend around like you used to. Some parents don't want guys spending the night or even being in your room at all. No matter how ridiculous their rules sound to you, don't fight them. Instead, go over to their house or apartment and don't talk bad about your parents. Rules are rules.
7. Plan on Leaving at a Certain Date
Have a rough timeline and let your parents know of when you plan on leaving. Having this open conversation will let them know that you have plans and are actively seeking means of achieving those goals.
With all of these tips, you'll be able to have your independence and live in peace and harmony with your parents without compromising your sense of identity. It's becoming more and more common for 18 to 34 year old adults to live with their parents, so there's no need to feel embarrassed that you aren't on your own ow feet just yet. What tips have worked best for you? Comment below!