Sometimes you need to evaluate your friendships for signs you need a new group of friends. Friends are so important in life. They are a relationship that is built entirely on choice, unlike family relationships which have their own special value. You form friendships because you like each other, you have things in common and care about one another. But if your friends are treating you badly, there are probably some of these signs you need a new group of friends.
1. They Ditch You
One of the signs you need a new group of friends is if they ditch you. That is just not cool. Anytime you are hanging out with a group of friends and they all suddenly make plans to go do something else and don’t invite you along, they are being unkind to you. You do not have to put up with that. If that is the case, start looking for different friends.
2. They Make Fun of You
If your friends make fun of you for anything, it is a sign you need a new group of friends. This piece of advice needs to be handled carefully, though. A lot of fun and harmless teasing can go on in friendships and that is perfectly okay. But if the teasing is unkind or intended to hurt your feelings, that is different. If you get the feeling you are being made fun of, you probably are. You should especially never be made fun of for your appearance or your abilities.
3. They Leave You out
Being left out is hurtful. Most of us have had our feelings hurt at one time or another and we know what it feels like. If you are in a large group of friends and a couple of them go off to have lunch, that is perfectly okay. But if you find out that the majority of your friends are getting together without you on a frequent basis, that is not okay. It more than likely means you are being left out and it is time to move on.
4. You Just Feel Something is off
You know, our intuition is a gift that helps us to determine things that are going on that we can’t quite see evidence of yet. I think intuition can be very valuable. But it is also important to remember that it is sometimes wrong. If you get the feeling that something is off in your friendship, it very well may be. Usually, you get that vibe for a reason.
5. They Are Snobby
Snobby friends are not the kind of friends that you want to have. There is absolutely nothing wrong with having friends from any economic class. But if some of your friends from an upper class are snobby then you should probably consider moving on. Not only does their behavior look bad on them but it looks bad on you if you stick around them long enough. Fair or not, the behavior of our friends is often held against us.
6. They Mistreat Others
Having a friend that mistreats others is not a good thing. I am not talking about your friend being short with her boyfriend; that is a completely different situation. But if you have a friend who routinely mistreats others, it does not say much for her personality. You have to ask yourself if you want to be friends with someone like that. You never know, you could be the next person they decide to mistreat.
7. They Put down Things in Your Life
A friend should be happy when you are happy. They should celebrate all of life’s successes with you and be glad when things are going your way. If your friends cannot do that, there is a problem. They are not true friends because true friends want the best for others. Consider finding a new group of friends if you are in this situation.
No friend is going to be perfect but our friends should care about us and want the best for us. What other reasons do you think there are for finding a new group of friends? I would love to hear your thoughts and experiences.