The average person says about 15,000 words a day, but did you know most of one’s thoughts are conveyed through common body language signs? Some call it hocus-pocus, but people leak signals with gestures and poses without even knowing. Mastering the art of body language can reveal and transform how people perceive you. Roll up your sleeves, and ready your mind! Prepare to be amazed with these body language signs that can make you a smarter talker.
1. Real Eyes or Real Lies
Eyes aren’t just windows to the soul; they’re the boldest body language signs. The first sign taught in Lying 101 is broken eye-contact. However, it’s the direction of the eyes that matter. If someone looks up and left while talking, be suspicious. That’s because the left-side of the brain is “creative” and possibly well at work! If someone is looking up and to the right, the story might be believable because that’s the “remembering” half of the brain.
2. Glasses Games
If the eyes are the windows to the soul, then glasses must be soul’s messenger. For example, playing with your glasses can function as a nervous stalling tactic. Adjusting your glasses shows interest because it sharpens your view. Also, if someone puts them away in the middle of conversing, be concerned. That means he or she is done talking and is sick of seeing you. Who knew frames could be so sassy!
3. Compass of Interest
Ironically, feet speak volumes about the object of one’s attention. Next time you’re in an uncomfortable situation, take note of your positioning. Chances are the legs are facing the nearest exist. Conversely, if you’re speaking to someone, and his or her feet are angled away—change your game plan, because it’s just not interesting.
4. Head Holding
Another trick for discerning boredom from interest rests in hand-head interactions. Holding one’s head, like to prevent it from rolling off the shoulders, easily suggests the person is struggling to stay present. However, holding the head without resting on the supporting hand shows interest and agreement. Another signal for showing interest involves tilting the head sideways. So long as nobody is snoozing, it’s a good sign!
5. Hand Tricks
Palms up or palms down, the way your hand faces determines everything. If you’re trying to be open and respectful, speak with your palms exposed. Closed fists and down-facing hands assert power, however, and have aggressive undertones. This can be applied to handshakes, too. Make sure nobody is twisting their palm up or down to ensure an equal encounter.
6. Barrier Building
I’m sure most people know that defensive = crossed arms and legs. This is a primal instinct to protect the sensitive core with your relatively organ-less limbs. However, people can make pseudo-barriers that convey any feelings of discomfort. For example, frequently touching a watch or clutching a bag are methods that make your body feel protected by making shields. An interesting one you may see during meals is the “glass on the non-dominant side” set up. This forces someone to reach across their sensitive midsection to get a drink, sneakily making a barrier with every sip.
7. Likes Me, Likes Me Not
This is one of my favorites. Everyone wants to know who likes them—so here’s a trick. People’s faces often “light up” when they see something attractive. If you bump into a person, his or her eyebrows should jump up and the pupils should dilate. This happens quickly, though, and it’s probably the hardest body sign to catch.
I should note that body language, like spoken language, is subject to misinterpretation. These tricks aren’t foolproof, and body language masters may be lurking around! If a body language signs expert is around, would you mind commenting and revealing some tricks of your own?