The 7 basic rules of how to be a heartbreaker are the surprisingly well known pragmatic strategies that are crucial when snagging a decent guy. But where most women get stuck is implementing these necessary tactics. I guess it falls under the old saying "easier said than done," but if you make your way through these rules regularly you will eventually master how to be a heartbreaker. No one wants to get hurt - and more often than not this is the number on thing on most people's minds. However maybe it’s time to take a more offensive position instead of a defensive position when it comes to the battles of the sexes and follow these basic rules of how to be a heartbreaker to ensure a winning streak.
1. Keep Him at Bay
The number one rule of how to be a heartbreaker is maintaining an equal relationship. If anything, possessing the upper hand is ideal when you want to be a heartbreaker. On your first dates, don't give him more than a peck on the cheek and keep a solid five date rule minimum. And if your perspective significant other isn't meeting your standards, do not hesitate to cut it off - this is essential for how to be a heartbreaker. Take all the necessary precautions to keep him wanting more, prolong answering text messages and go about your day regardless of what he's doing. And do not at all costs, jump to meet him on a whim! It should be the reverse!
2. Make Time for the Things (and People!) That Matter
Whether you’re running around from for your job, college classes or young kids, it’s important to remember (as silly as it sounds) there really are only 7 days in a week. So if there’s a guy that’s pursuing you in a classy, respectful way, and acknowledges that you’re busy, maybe it won’t hurt to meet him for coffee for about a half hour. But as I mentioned in tip #1, if the guy isn’t putting in the effort, why should you? Don’t be afraid to be a heartbreaker ladies, and stand up for yourself regardless! Because after all YOU are worth it.
3. Do What’s Best for You
Maybe this sounds selfish or conceited, but when you are making your own life, and like most people say "doing you," it’s important to put your needs first. And believe it or not, it’s not selfish or conceited, because it’s crucial that you don’t let him be the heartbreaker. Nonetheless, at the end of the day, if you don’t look out for yourself who will? You’re a big girl now, so if the guy is chasing you, make him chase, make him travel to you, make him pick you up. As Steve Harvey says in "Act like a lady, think like a man" and don’t be one of the "click, click" girls - he’s more than capable of opening that car door for you! So make sure he does.
4. Keep More than One Guy in the Rotation
Since these are the 7 rules on how to be a heartbreaker and not the 7 rules on how to fall in love or form a successful relationship, you shouldn’t hesitate to date as much as possible. And when I say date, I mean dating only. You can never be too careful, so you don’t want to go around having sex with every guy you meet. But an essential tactic in being a heartbreaker is playing the field. Go out with every worthy guy you meet; it will help you in the future for being comfortable on dates and with yourself in general. It’s important to be confident and after all, practice makes perfect. After enough heartbreaking you may just find what you’re looking for, or at least have a clearer picture of what you want when it comes to a guy.
5. Make Him Work for You
My mother always said: let the boys come to you. And that statement has never been truer than it is right now. Don’t waste your time chasing after guys; if you know your worth and know you have plenty to offer someone so do not waste your time scanning your environment for guys to pounce on. They will come to you if you’re giving off vibes that you’re available but don’t come across as too available. Make him work for your heart! You are a busy lady like I said there are only 7 days in a week, only so many hours in a day, make time for the people that are worth it and that count! If he’s not putting in the effort why should you? That’s not being a heart breaker; that is how to get your heart broken.
6. Stay True to Your Girls
Sticking to the similar theme of making time for the ones that count, is staying true to your girlfriends. People like to make up sayings all the time like ladies first and what not, but at this point this should really be a reflex. Your friends and family should come before any guy so don’t let some fake Romeo come flying through and snatch you away from the people who have been there for you all along. There are worse things than being single and not having a guy around, like being single, not having a guy around and having no one by your side to listen to you complain about it. In all serious, stick by your girls, they’re the ones who have always been there so don’t put them on the back burner, ever.
7. Take Care of Yourself and Your Appearance!
Last but not least you won’t be getting any guys looking like a hot or not mess! There are plenty of tips here on allwomenstalk.com to keep you looking beautiful and fresh looking. But I should emphasize, you shouldn’t be trying to put yourself together or doll yourself up just to be a well-known heartbreaker, knowing your value is number one so why not try to look your best regularly. I know I feel better when I know I look good. And personal hygiene should be a priority of every woman’s.
All of these tips may seem like no brainers, but you would be surprised as to how many women fail to realize how important all of these are. And like I said initially, these may not be the easiest steps to complete for everyone, but when done in moderation to the right extent, they will be sure to send any lady on her way to being a self-regarding, self-respecting heartbreaker! Can you think of a tip I missed?