Ways to Cope with Separation 💔so You Can Heal 😭and Move on 🙏 ...


We deal with lots of separation in our lives, which is why we all need ways to cope with separation.

There are many different types of separation too - Divorce, friends move, we move, fights, death of parents, spouses, friends, siblings, and God forbid, children.

The pain from separation is enormous.

Here are some ways to cope with separation:

1. Science

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Physics offers one of the ways to cope with separation.

If you remember the “conservation of mass”, nothing is created or destroyed, it just changes to a near death experience.2

Tons of accounts have been documented resulting in consistent stories of “where we go”.

2. Literature and Art

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As a society we write and create things that capture our fascination and struggle with “what’s next.” An example of this is after death communication.

Check out "Hello from Heaven," by Bill and Judy Guggenheim.

3. Spirituality

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Nothing is stronger than a first-hand spiritual experience.

We often use technology to communicate with people in different physical locations.

Several weeks after my dad’s death, my mom got a staticky call that was hard to hear.

My mom asked in exasperation, “WHO is this?”, the caller answered “it’s Frank,” which was my dad’s name.

Another aspect of healing is the way we go about it.

We need a better “on ramp” to help the process.2

For example, Celebrations of Life are justified by social acceptance to speed getting “over it.” Then everybody goes home, feels like dirt, and wonders why.

According to research done by Olson-Zaltman Associates, here's how to help people move on at a celebration of life service:

1. “the Performance of a Lifetime.”

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Where dinner theater meets memorial service.2

But better.

Music that ties in with the script, casting family members, key messages, a gift bag with books, music, articles and a votive candle are great ideas.

Hit the ground running toward healing, rather than reinventing it.

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